About us
Hello; We're Bethany and Hillary—besties on a mission to actively disrupt the narrative of failure and isolation of divorce for those in the midst of it and those finding their way after it.
By pioneering a modern dialogue around divorce and the end of long-term partnerships, we are changing the way people experience this type of adversity and the way others support them (ideally with less judgment and more love).
Here's our confession: Divorce is one of the best things that ever happened to us, and we are on a mission to help other people thrive after the end of a long-term partnership and connect with others who are doing the same. Oh, and it's really important to us that we disrupt the narrative of failure and shame that society assigns to divorce.
That’s why we started Sincerely, Divorced one year ago: we wanted to create a place where a community comprised of all walks of life, ages, and relationship types would be a living and breathing example that healing and hope can win. This community is reframing the negative perceptions of divorce we all have (unfortunately) learned to embrace. And we do it together—one breakdown and glow-up at a time.
Who we are
Our origin story
We are two women who found ourselves navigating the unpredictable maze of separation, divorce, co-parenting, depression, and healing at the same time, yet in very different ways. Professional work brought us together, and the journey of divorce led us to our purpose–to help others overcome adversity, thrive through and beyond the end of an intimate partnership, and give our children the most healed versions of ourselves.
We are divorced. We are stronger, healthier, and wiser after divorcing our respective spouses and we are on a mission to create a visible community of people who are separated, divorced, or are no longer in a long-term intimate partnership.
We’ve created this space to normalize these experiences in all of their shapes, sizes, and circumstances, to share strategies for support (for people having the experience as well as those who love them), and to ultimately change the commonly accepted (and widely outdated) narrative of shame and failure around divorce.
We love sharing what we’ve learned and what we continue to learn while navigating life after divorce and raising our children. Although we live and work in Maryland, we know this work and this community is not bound by geography nor is this work bound by gender, race, religion, or identity.
About Bethany Pace, M.Ed.
Bethany was married 22 years before filing for divorce. She has a tween and young adult daughter. Bethany's areas of expertise include:
- divorce after 20+ years marriage
- amicable co-parenting with your ex-spouse (and their new partner)
- tween & young adult divorce transition and adjustment
- religion, faith, and divorce
- dating and companionship in mid-life
- cultural and socioeconomic nuances of divorce
Bethany has a B.A. in journalism and an M.Ed. in counseling, both from The Pennsylvania State University. Connect with Bethany here or at bethany[at]sincerelydivorced.com.
About Hillary Livingston, M.S.
Hillary was married 7 years before her marriage ended. She has two small children. Hillary's areas of expertise include:
Hillary's areas of expertise:
- navigating divorce with young children
- divorcing while pregnant and as a SAHM
- marital infidelity
- covert narcissist abuse
- navigating family support
Hillary has a B.S. in psychology and an M.S. in human resource development from Towson University. Connect with Hillary here or at hillary[at]sincerelydivorced.com.
What we do
We support
It doesn't matter if you are navigating the end of a long-term relationship and its aftermath, or if you are a friend or family member supporting someone who is getting divorced, we are here to help.
We offer practical support such as virtual and in-person meetups, informative blog posts, coaching, divorce communication help, e-books, and more to members of our community.
Subscribe to receive our weekly newsletter every Thursday. It contains a quick review (see an example) of links, tips, commentary on navigating various stages of divorce, and adjacent topics like replacing deficit mindsets and perspectives with hope and abundance. We take time to find the resources so you can focus on embracing a brighter future.
We build community
We collaborate
Have an idea? We have a large and diverse local and global platform to share professional resources and brands that make the life transitions of separation, divorce, co-parenting, and dating easier for members of our community. More importantly, the Sincerely, Divorced community trusts us and what we say.
We especially love to partner with non-profit and community organizations such as SARC of Harford County. We believe that building community starts locally and grows from there.
Complete our online inquiry form or contact hello@sincerelydivorced.com to ask about sponsorship, advertising, and partnership opportunities.
We share hope
Sincerely, Divorced has been featured in the following media outlets and publications: WMAR-2 Baltimore, Her View From Home, Harford's Heart Magazine, The Divorce Planner, and Valarie B. Everett. Got a question, request or just want to say hi? Contact us at hello@sincerelydivorced.
Frequently asked questions
Are men welcome or do I need to be a woman, parent, divorced, or at a certain stage of divorce to join this community?
Nope! Our community is unique because it's intentionally inclusive—all genders, ages, identities, and relationship types are welcome (the more the merrier). Trust us, this is a rare find in other divorce spaces today. We are informed by the diversity of experiences and we always will be. We will also keep our finger on the pulse of topics that may pertain more to the needs of a particular subgroup.
Sincerely, Divorced has followers who are still (happily) married but they're here to help someone they love. Many are in the early stages of considering divorce (facing it is hard). Many are in the trenches of divorce—both high-conflict, amicable, and everything in between. Some of our followers just enjoy laughs about the highs and lows of relationships, dating, and want to learn more about how to apply positive reframing to their lives and the challenges life brings us.
What is a Hope Note and how can I request one?
We love sending handwritten cards that we call Hope Notes to remind people that they are not alone before, during, and after divorce. Learn more.
Have other questions? Email hello@sincerelydivorced.com or send us a DM on Instagram.