Notes to self

By Bethany Pace

Before writing ‘dear friend’ notes for @sincerelydivorced, I wrote notes to myself (and hung them on the inside of my medicine cabinet). I wrote these in 2019 as it was becoming more clear that my marriage was no longer a psychologically safe space for me.

I was so very sad and this was a way to cope. When I found the ‘love’ doodle in one of my daughters’ rooms shortly thereafter, I put it here as a reminder that they loved me even though I wasn’t sure that my husband did.

Over time, it became a call for me to love myself—and that’s how I’ve gotten this far. My wish in sharing these notes with you is that hope will rise to the top of your hearts and the front of your minds during difficult days and seasons. You will make it past these times and be proud of yourself for holding on.